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Autor: Wu Ming MIng
People with bad popularity have one thing in common. It's still time to change
"Creator of the hundred list, creator of the hundred 2020 influence", writer, creator of high-quality emotional field
Text / snow falling dust-free
Everyone is an independent individual. Everyone has his own unique personality, his own way of behavior and work style.
Some people are surrounded by many friends and can get along well with everyone; Some people have only a few friends and few confidants.
Some people complain that after marriage, the communication between the two people becomes more and more difficult. They quarrel all the time, and their husband begins to be silent. However, they are angry, so they blindly accuse their husband of what's wrong.
When two people live together, there will inevitably be a lot of friction. Quarreling is a normal phenomenon. But some couples quarrel and have a better relationship, while others quarrel and divorce.
When there are problems in life, appropriate treatment is particularly important.
People with high EQ will think in other places and think for others; People with low EQ will only vent their dissatisfaction blindly, and even take some unreasonable ways.
People with high EQ are more able to maintain their happiness, while people with low EQ often destroy their happiness by themselves.
Low EQ is a person's biggest "hard injury".
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People with low EQ are difficult to make true friends
I once met such a roommate, Guoguo, a girl who was new to the company. When I first met her, I thought she was a kind and simple person, just a little nervous.
Guoguo likes playing games and is used to staying up late. But the other three girls in the same bedroom are people who are used to going to bed early. They are tired of working during the day. They will find ways to relax after work.
At first, we will get together to go shopping, chat and eat. Many people do not leave their mobile phones, and Guoguo is no exception.
But what we mind is that she plays with her mobile phone anytime and anywhere. Let's take it with us when walking. When eating, she often ignores communication with us because of playing with her mobile phone.
We don't share with her, but her behavior always makes us uncomfortable.
The real reason why we don't like her is that she plays games and plays them out every night. Even when others are sleeping and don't play games, she calls her boyfriend and plays them out.
We will persuade her not to talk and affect others to sleep, but the result is to go her own way as always.
We can still be good friends if we accidentally affect others' work and rest because of excitement and nerves several times, but change our behavior under the persuasion of others.
But in our repeated resistance, she thought we were against her. And we just kindly advised her to consider other people's feelings and restrain her behavior when we were affected.
But she thinks that playing games outside can be fun. She has time to chat with her boyfriend only in the evening. How can she listen to her voice?
A person's good or bad quality can be seen from her daily behavior.
In fact, Guo Guo is not a bad person, but her series of behaviors are difficult to be accepted by others. She doesn't consider other people's feelings when talking and doing things. Naturally, she doesn't have any sincere friends when her EQ is too low.
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People with low EQ are difficult to maintain their happiness
Xiao Ping is a very impulsive and bad tempered person. She deliberately restrains her temper from falling in love to getting married. But since the birth of the child, she has indulged her temper more and more.
Because there are too many trivial things in life and the children are more upset, her temper has been difficult to control. Moreover, she felt that after being married for so long, her husband should tolerate everything.
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